The holiday season brings joy, togetherness, and cherished traditions, but it can also present challenges—especially for loved ones navigating mental health conditions. Whether you’re hosting a festive dinner or joining family celebrations, taking a thoughtful approach can make gatherings more inclusive and supportive for everyone involved. Here’s how you can make this season warm and welcoming for loved ones who may need extra care.
1. Shift the Focus of Your Questions
Instead of asking about milestones or stressful topics like work or school, try engaging with lighter, more enjoyable conversations. Mental health challenges can make it difficult for someone to meet traditional expectations, and bringing these up might unintentionally cause discomfort.
Try asking:
- “What have you been doing for fun lately?”
- “Seen any good movies recently?”
- “Do you still enjoy playing soccer?”
These types of questions encourage positive exchanges without pressure.
2. Support Without Offering Unsolicited Advice
Your loved one’s care team knows what’s best for their treatment. Rather than jumping in with suggestions, let them know you’re available to help and listen.
Instead, say:
- “Is there anything that’s been making things easier or harder for you?”
- “I’m here if there’s anything I can do to support you.”
By being a listening ear, you empower them to open up at their own comfort level.
3. Create Space for Joyful Topics
Many prefer to focus on meaningful and uplifting discussions during gatherings. Asking about goals, upcoming plans, or personal interests can redirect the conversation in a positive way.
For example:
- “What’s something you’re looking forward to in the new year?”
- “Do you like to travel? I’ve been thinking about planning a trip and would love your input!”
4. Practice Active Listening
Resist the urge to share your own experiences or steer the conversation. Instead, focus on your loved one’s feelings and allow them to bring up sensitive topics when ready.
You could say:
- “I’m just glad to be spending time with you. If you want to talk, I’m here to listen.”
- “Take your time; no pressure to share anything you’re not ready for.”
This approach fosters trust and helps your loved one feel valued.
5. Use Supportive Language
Person-first language acknowledges the individual before their diagnosis, respecting their humanity.
For instance:
- “He’s living with schizophrenia,” instead of “He’s schizophrenic.”
- “She’s managing mental health challenges,” instead of pejorative labels.
This shift in language demonstrates compassion and reduces stigma.
6. Respect Privacy
Never share details about someone’s mental health without their consent. They should decide how, when, and with whom to share their experiences.
Ask permission first:
- “Is it okay if I let [family member] know how you’re doing?”
- “I think it’s best if you share that story yourself.”
7. Be Flexible with Holiday Expectations
While traditions are cherished, they shouldn’t feel rigid or burdensome. Accommodate your loved one’s needs, whether that means letting them take a break from the crowd or skipping an event altogether.
Say things like:
- “It’s a bit hectic in here—want to join me in the kitchen for some quiet time?”
- “We’d love to have you, but we completely understand if you can’t make it.”
These small gestures show understanding and care.
8. Offer Inclusive Beverage Options
Many mental health medications don’t mix well with alcohol, and some prefer to avoid substances altogether. Provide festive nonalcoholic alternatives to make everyone feel included.
Try saying:
- “Would you like a pumpkin spice mocktail?”
- “We’ve got a mix of drinks—something for everyone!”
9. Focus on Uplifting Stories
Avoid retelling anecdotes related to someone’s mental health symptoms, which could feel hurtful. Instead, recall positive shared memories.
Examples include:
- “Remember that amazing day at the amusement park last summer?”
- “You used to love playing with your cousins at the park—such fun times!”
The holidays are a time to create connections that uplift, support, and inspire. By practicing empathy and being intentional in your interactions, you can ensure this season is filled with warmth and understanding for all. Let’s make the most of our time together by building bonds that truly matter.
Wishing you a season of joy, compassion, and meaningful connections!
